Research has shown that 80% of women describe how they look when they are asked how they
feel about their bodies. By age 2 or 3, we start understanding what makes us valuable and
worthy from the messages our parents and from society at large, and by age 6 or 7, we start to
connect that our worth, at least socially, is directly related to how our bodies look. We are
taught, and then we believe, that our bodies are ornaments.
The damage of these “messages turned beliefs” is incalculable. Do you avoid the beach, even
though you love the water, because of how you look in a bathing suit? Do you change your
clothes a hundred times in the morning because nothing feels right? Have you ever tried a diet?
Of course, you do and you have. You are a person in America. All of us have missed out on
things we love and wasted our precious time because of the belief that our bodies “do not look
You know what I am talking about, so how do we fix the problem? I would love to tell you that I
have a diet for you but literally EVERY SINGLE study for the last 75 years has said that
intentional weight loss does not work. Every damn one.
The actual solution is to redefine health. We have to see our bodies as instruments, in terms of
their function. Does my body do what I need it to do? Can you hug your loved ones? Swim?
Netfilx and chill? We can reclaim our time and our space when we move from seeing our bodies
as instruments, not ornaments. It is a crucial step in creating a life worth living and being who
we are meant to be.