Humor, Kindness, Honesty: The Formulation for Growth and Healing
Updated: Nov 3, 2021
If you ever decide to work with me, you will notice three things almost immediately. My sense of
humor is dark as fuck. I am kind. And I will never lie to you. My twelve years as a therapist and
coach, my own life, and the lives of my clients has led me to some ghastly conclusions about
humanity but I am left with the belief that humor, kindness, and the truth are the fundamental
formula for healing.
Humor is necessary because the things we do and deal with are often absurd. Humor allows my
clients to connect on a human, spiritual level. From the darkest pain comes the brightest humor.
Humor allows us to validate our own experiences and find the strength to live through horror
Kindness comes from a place of unconditional positive regard. No matter what you do, say, or
think, I will always believe you are fundamentally good. You are always doing the best you can.
Always. Your humanness and vulnerability are gifts to be treated with care and love. I am the
Honesty is about trust and validation. You make sense to me at all times and on all occasions.
Of course, honesty is not an excuse to be an asshole. Honesty only counts if I can hold your
perspective and be objective at the same time. I will never tell you that forgiveness is necessary
and I will never enable you. I will do everything I know how to earn your trust and be trustworthy.
Humor, kindness, and honesty define me. I hold all of them at the same time. These are my gifts
to you. I want to see you grow and heal. Welcome to Azure Skies Coaching!